We cannot access what is honest and
where to find truth if there is no action to observe in the first place. As I have left former relationships, I’ve
taken the time to try to find the truth in these situations. First, I look at the actions of my partner,
as well as the action of us together and, most importantly, the actions of my
own character while involved with this particular person. I have recently come
out of a relationship, and once again, I my turn my attention towards the
actions that transpired. We have been
friends for almost two years. Any action that either of us asks of each other,
we did our best to fulfill. Most of the conflicts we had were the result of
“talks.”
I feel this is a common conflict that
plays out between men and women. So
often, ego and emotion go “toe to toe,” and if the parties are not able to keep
their egos and emotions in check, then it’s a matter of time before the two
parties will go “blow for blow.” (I
don’t mean physically. I’m referring
more to insults and emotional abuse.)
Usually, the one with the most “ego” will talk less, and the one with
more emotion will talk more, or vice versa.
Once again, the challenge lies in finding the balance. Most importantly, in this situation, the
priority is “how” and “when.” The “how”
references style and approach (as well as the “how” in quantity), and the
“when” references the timing of knowing “when” to talk or “when” to take a walk,
for instance.
If we arrive at “blow for blow,” how
do we step out of the ring and learn how to not let our egos and emotions get
to this point? We must first realize
that there is nothing wrong with being in the ring, but it is our actions
inside the ring that we should be cognizant of.
Just because two people are standing in a ring does not mean that they
have to throw blows and make efforts to hurt each other. The ring should just serve as a place where
the two can settle a conflict. It is the
actions preformed in and out of the ring that may expose the truth of a
relationship.
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