Most people feel that security starts
at home. The key is our perception of where home exists. I feel a secure home always starts from
within. Then we can take a step on the outside into the surroundings that are
close to us and our souls.
I feel some women only comprehend a
portion of this notion. A few of the
women I have been involved with spend the majority of their time and energy
taking care of what is innately close to them, without taking care of the
essence of their home, which is their soul or their “base.” Many times, men take advantage of this fact.
Yet, often in time, men lose interest because they realize they are standing
beside a place where the soul is not clean, safe, or has enough room to grow
the way a good home should.
Men can be just as guilty in this
unbalanced situation because they make choices mainly on the “curb appeal” of a
home, rather than by doing a proper inspection. This is the home men invest
their time in, though they might only be occupied for the short term trying to
fix it up to their liking. As a result,
a woman may feel like a “short-term rental” situation.
Clearly, I have made generalizations
in this situation, and the roles can easily be reversed. But, I do know for myself when I am dating
that I always do my best to assess the situation at home. And yes, I have had my share of poor
assessments, being distracted by amazingly sculpted facades. But, fortunately,
time, silence, and action have told me the truth and lead me to a change.
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